Do you have fun in your relationship?

September 5, 2010 By Leave a Comment

Trust me this is a really important question. Ask it of yourself right now, this very moment. Do you have fun in your relationship? Now make sure your honest with yourself. I mean, really do you have fun??

I was talking to a friend the other day and asking him if he has fun in his relationship. He said that he and his partner take the dog for a walk??!!

Well I’m sorry but if that’s your idea of fun then something is really missing! The reason I asked my friend in the first place was because I wanted to raise his attention to it. I knew very well that he didn’t have much fun going on in his life. How did I know? Well he is not exactly a humorous chap after all, always so serious with seemingly a million things on his mind day in and day out. And I was right.

Walking the dog can be fun, don’t get me wrong! But I know this was not the sense of fun that I was talking about when I asked him, and he knew very well what I was implying.

My partner and I are ALWAYS having fun. Laughing, joking, keeping the mood light. Having camp fires under the stars, sitting on the balcony and having a few laughs, we go out to see live music regularly, and recently we joined a 4wd club so we could get out and about and have some adventures, ie-more fun!!

Now doesn’t that sound a bit better? Well when I mentioned a few of those things to my friend, such as the 4wdriving, he just responded with “Well where will we find the time”…

This is a true tragedy. To claim that he is truly happy and fulfilled is a complete and utter joke. Now maybe you and I can have a bit of fun with that, but him, he is completely lost in the mundane routine of life. Swallowed up in the dull commonplace, monotonous, tedious, dreary, boring humdrum of the everyday.

If you want to get to love this is not the place to find it. You need to invest time in creating FUN, FUN, FUN. It doesn’t just happen, yes sometimes it takes a bit of effort. You may never find the time, you just have to make it. Prioritize fun time as an essential ingredient to your relationship success.

Think about what kind of things you find amusing, enjoyable or entertaining? What activities do you find pleasurable, interesting? Well if you’re not doing them already, then get out there and engage in life. Have fun, laugh, learn, and love together.

If you like this post then engage with me right here right now and leave your thoughts and comments below. And make sure you share it with your friends okay?!

Thanks and talk soon

Jedha :)

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Relationship Questionaire

August 24, 2010 By Leave a Comment

Today I have some important questions for you to think about. But I don’t want you to just think about them, I want you to get involved and answer them as well. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself, it is only you listening so no one else will know the answers, so no fooling yourself ok.

Do you really know what it is you want out of your relationship?

Have you ever put much thought into what you want your relationship to be like? What do you want it to feel like?

What do you want it to look like?

How would you rate your relationship at the moment?

There are several different aspects of relationships that are important and many different ways to get to love depending on what your aim is.

Some of these aspects include:

Love

Intimacy

Sex

Companionship

Emotional support

Understanding

Financial partnership

Fun

Which of the things in the above list is most important to you?

Think about each area, how is it tracking right now? Is it at the place you want it to be or are there some changes you would like to make, things you would like to improve?

If there is an area you identified that you think really needs some work, then think of a few simple strategies you could use to start to change things today. Often all it takes is a few simple actions to move things in a completely new direction in finding new ways to love.

I hope this has inspired some thought about your relationship.

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Jedha :)

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Personal & Relationship Success Tip

August 17, 2010 By Leave a Comment

Achieving personal or relationship success is much easier than you may think. Have a listen to this 5 minute audio where I briefly talk and give you some tips on how to do it.

Download this word document to help get you started. Click on the link to download Personal Success

Visit http://ways2luv.com/about to check out my e-book package that can help you achieve the life of your dreams filled with happiness and fulfillment

Overcoming bad habits and establishing success habits are a couple of things that I will cover when I start doing the new webinars. So if you have not pre-registered then make sure you do because they are due to start sometime this month and they are FREE.

What are your thoughts about this post? Remember to leave me your comments below and make sure you share this post with your friends.

See you soon

Jedha :)

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Are you trying to sabotage your relationship?

August 10, 2010 By Leave a Comment

So what is sabotage? It is an action that is taken to undermine or destroy your own efforts or achievements. Sometimes you may not even be aware that you are sabotaging yourself. You may realize that you are not happy about certain things that are happening in your life but you may not recognize that you are creating them.

Why would we sabotage ourselves? Don’t you think we would want the best in our life? Don’t you think that we would want to act and be the way we want? Well yes you would think that, and we do think that, the problem is that deep down we don’t really believe that, we don’t really feel that way as much as we might think we do.

The truth is a lot of the time we don’t believe we deserve to have the best in our life. We don’t really feel we deserve everything good, great and wonderful. We don’t believe we are worthy of receiving love, of having a great relationship, of being successful and reaching your dreams. This is our little inner sabotage demon. Just sitting back there on our shoulder, whispering little doubts and fears into our ear, filling our mind with nonsense and negativity.

This little demon can be nasty, nasty, nasty. And if you don’t keep him in check he may very well sabotage every effort you make to move forward in your life. Take a moment to listen to what your little demon is whispering in your ear. “You don’t deserve to be loved” “You will not really succeed at doing that” “You can’t do that you are not worth it” “You might as well give up right now because you are going to fail anyway”.

Is this what your demon is telling you? Or maybe it is something else? The point is that sabotage is common and you may be trying to sabotage your relationship and yourself right now. But you know what? There is a solution. You can challenge this little demon and tell him to keep his opinion to himself. You do not want to hear it.

So where to begin? Begin with loving yourself. Self-love and self-change are not always easy. But it is all about loving, loving all the special qualities and abilities you have, the ones that make you unique. It is about finding ways to love you for who you really are, believing you are worthy of giving and receiving love.

Please interact right here and leave me your comments below.

Jedha  :)

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Loving your partner: a couple of helpful hints

August 9, 2010 By Leave a Comment

I’ve missed out on doing some new posts over the last week or so because my partner and children were feeling a bit neglected. Seems I was spending a bit too much time on other worldly pursuits and not prioritizing the important things. We all mess up now and again. We are only human after all. But look I am the first one to admit I have made a mistake when I have made one. I am the first one to admit that I’m wrong when I’m wrong.

So the message in this little scenario is to get your priorities straight. Yes we have to work, yes we have to do things, but do not let work or busyness take over to the point where you are neglecting the important things in your life. Relationships are the most important things to maintain and sustain.

So if the people around you are pointing the finger, make sure you take a look and see if they are right. If you see they are, have the courage to admit it, make a few adjustments and presto things begin to get back on track. This is how you love someone, by listening, learning, and growing forward together.

Another important relationship tip…Only speak highly of your partner to others

Never, ever speak badly of your partner to others. So many people bitch and complain about their partner and their marriage to others. Please don’t give friends, family, or colleagues any ammunition to use against you or your partner. Have you ever told your friend something about your partner or your marriage and received a response like “Oh God, I don’t know how you put up with it”, or “you deserve better than that”, or some other negative response.

Beware of outside influences they will always try to bring you down. And when they see you building a strong foundation and the way you share your love, they may want to try to take it form you. Perhaps not intentionally, but some deep jealousy will make them say bad things toward your partner; will try to influence your perspective and view of them or the situation.

Next time this happens in a circle of people, just sit back and watch how it happens. But whatever you do, don’t give other people any ammunition to bring you and your relationship down.

You are a team remember. You want people to see how strong your relationship is, how wonderful you are together, how much you love each other, how much respect you show for each other. Even though there may be some problems at times. Keep your personal problems in the inner circle. The same rule goes for both males and females.  Always speak of your partner in high regard. Think and talk of them as the most respected and amazing person in your life.

It is amazing when you do this. Your friends and colleagues will be shocked when you say wonderful things about your partner and don’t get into their little bitch sessions. You will even surprise yourself that when you speak of your partner highly to others, you will actually see that they really are wonderful. You actually do only think highly of them. And you will naturally have a deeper respect and appreciation for them and your relationship.

Hope you enjoyed this post. If so please leave your comments below and be sure to share it with your friends.

Thanks

Jedha :)

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Want to improve your love?

August 1, 2010 By 1 Comment

If you want to improve your love, sometimes you need to improve yourself. Yes, that’s right. Self development.

I had a conversation with a friend the other day and he said he recently had a breakthrough. It happened after the failure of yet another relationship. He was simply reflecting on where he had gone wrong again and he suddenly realised that he had this very destructive pattern that kept repeating itself in every relationship.

This pattern was where he seemingly had to create arguments with his partners so he could then try to resolve it and win back their love. That is until one day he had just pushed it all a bit too far and the line of no return could not be crossed. This time he could not win their love back, and yet again it was the end of another relationship.

So he recognised the pattern, that was the first step to changing it. The next realization was where the pattern had come from. He realized it had come form his relationship with his mother. He used to have arguments with his mother all the time and then she would make him win her love back. So he had established this pattern, hidden in the back of his mind without him even knowing it. And he just kept reenacting it over and over again years later, destroying all of his relationships.

Wow. What a realization! The good thing is now that he has realized what the pattern is he can recognise it the next time he meets someone. Instead of reenacting the same pattern, he can start to create a new, healthy pattern for love instead of a destructive one.

Negative patterns and behaviors can prevent us from moving forward in life. You are not alone if it is happening to you. I think all of us have it in some area of our life. The point is that we need to work on ourselves if we want to improve our relationships. It may not always be something like my friend experienced but it very well may be. And if a bit of self development can save you from years of struggle, then isn’t it worth the effort?

What is your experience? I’d love to hear your comments and stories.

Jedha:)

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A Powerful Principle to Help You Achieve a Better Relationship

July 29, 2010 By Leave a Comment

So what is this powerful principle?

Be HAPPY.

Yes that’s right. Simply be happy.

Have you ever noticed that if you are in a bad mood that it starts to affect everyone around you? For example, you are feeling a bit stressed and edgy at work and then suddenly your coworkers start to react more stressed and edgy as well. Have you ever noticed this? Or stressed and moody at home and your partner starts to react? Have you ever noticed this?

Your mood affects everyone around you. But of course the one person it affects the most is your partner. Okay, some days you may forget to take control of your mood. You might have a bad night sleep and simply wake up a big old grump. Just remember to treat your love right. Don’t take it out on them. It will not make you feel better. In fact it will give your partner a bad mood too and then you will be doubly unhappy.

Even better, if you wake up in a bad mood or come home from work grumpy and stressed, take a breath, and think happy thoughts. Change your mood to a happy one. Happiness is a choice that you make. It is not something that you have to wait for, to occur. You choose to be happy. And you can choose to be happy all the time.

Stress at work will still happen. You may still have a bad night sleep. But take a breath and choose to be happy. You hold a powerful key in the palm of your hand. This key is happiness. When you are happy your partner will be happy. Your mood can influence the entire mood of the relationship.

What a powerful key this is! A simple switch in attitude suddenly takes your relationship to a whole new altitude.

Try it, it really does work.

Please leave your comments, what do you think? And share this post with your friends.

Jedha :)

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Listening is a powerful gift to give

July 28, 2010 By Leave a Comment

“When you listen to somebody attentively, you listen not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not just part of it”

Really this quote speaks for itself don’t you think?

It is so important to really listen to people. Not half listen, not pretend you are listening, not assume you know what the other person is going to say, not be thinking about what it is you want to say next. But instead just really listen.

When you can really listen, this is when you can begin to understand more about another. You can hear and feel the words, understand the message being portrayed. You can begin to see the world through another person’s eyes.

Listening helps you to get closer to people, it helps you to show your love. But more than that when you really listen to someone else it makes them feel very special. People really appreciate being heard, having their message heard and understood.

Think about it for a moment. Think of a time recently when you needed to tell someone something. Did they listen to you properly? How did it make you feel?

What about when you were upset about something and needed to share your feelings? Did the person listen to you then? Did you really feel understood?

Part of being a good listener is to let go of all judgment. Do not judge what you hear, do not criticize, do not have an opinion. Just listen and let the person be heard.

It is such a great gift to truly have your whole self acknowledged by someone who really listens.

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Jedha :)

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How you love someone

July 27, 2010 By 1 Comment

How you love someone is a lot about what you say and do on a regular basis. Regular being the operative word and more importantly what you do. I believe actions always speak louder than words. You have probably heard that saying before and it is very true. Anyone can say I love you, or I care about you but can you/they really show it?

Here are a few ideas to get your mind thinking about ways to love someone. Think about each one and how you can use it to show someone you love them.

1. Change your focus

2. Treat your love right

3. Be supportive not competitive

4. Turn expectation into appreciation

5. Practice complete acceptance

6. Make a pact to be a team

7. Spend quality time

8. Always be there for your partner

9. Always keep an open mind

10. Take an interest in your partner’s passion

11. Forgive and forget

12. Be happy

If you want to get to love using these 12 things then have a look at some of my previous posts that go into a few of these ideas in more detail. I will also be holding a webinar shortly to talk about 10 of these steps you can use to improve your relationship.

Would you like to attend the webinar? It is free.

If you would like to come please pre-register now using the form at the right side of this page. There will be limited places available so be quick if you want to come.

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Have a great day

Jedha :)

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12 Do’s & 7 Don’ts to Create a Happier Relationship

July 25, 2010 By Leave a Comment

The Do’s and Don’ts to creating a happier relationship

When people are fulfilled in life they bring a much happier person into the relationship with them. And this in turn builds a stronger foundation. The simple act of showing complete acceptance to someone instantly makes them feel happier and more fulfilled.

Acceptance is a very powerful thing, we all want to be acceptyed for who we are, and it is one sure way that you can create a happier relationship. So below are some of the do’s and don’ts to help you get some ideas about practicing acceptance for your partner.

DON’T

* be a control freak

* be bossy, opinionated and interfering

* criticize and judge your love constantly

* point out their shortcomings and faults

* get stuck on the negative

* stunt self expression

* stifle your partners growth


DO

* help to provide encouragement

* encourage and support your love to chang

* look at yourself and adjust your attitude

* Keep an open your mind

* change your perspective and be positive

* think about all of your partners good qualities

* accept them for who they are, for all their bad habits, for all their faults.

* provide a platform of support for your partners growth

* let your partner breath. We all need room to be ourselves

* encourage happiness, growth and fulfillment by showing acceptance

* accept the person as a whole

* practice giving your love unconditionally

Giving someone the gift of acceptance may sound like an easy thing to do but surprisingly it is more difficult than you think. It is easy to get stuck in the DON’Ts, being critical,  judgment and controlling.

So try to practice more of the Dos and you will be pleasantly surprised that the mood in your relationship will definitely change to a better one.

Remember acceptance is a very powerful thing to give to someone, to show someone you love them.

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Jedha :)

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